Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | September 28, 2020

When Real Sabotages Growth


“So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Galatians 5:16 (NIV)

“That’s just the way I am.” We’ve probably all used or heard that line. It’s the one that soothes over our rough edges or so we think. Being real, authentic in a world filled with imitation and fake is refreshing and energizing. Removing the mask revealing our self rather than hiding behind true self is liberating. But what happens when “just the way I am” sabotages growth and transformation?

Don’t know about you, but it’s easier to claim I can’t change than admit I won’t change. Facing our own weaknesses and admitting what doesn’t serve us well isn’t exactly where we like to visit. Unveiling all of the “real us” even if it hurts others isn’t pretty. Too many times, I’ve seen “just the way I am” on full display and the damaging effects of authenticity gone wild is more than I prefer to experience. Sorry to say, I’ve been real for the sake of real unfiltered, and I’m sure there were some innocent bystanders running for cover.

Ever wondered how to be real and transparent without our weaknesses dominating everyone’s space? Balance – yes it works, but we aren’t called to balance our authenticity – we are called to be led by God’s Spirit and not our own.

One of the beautiful things about our relationship with God is His intentional work in us. A surrendered heart flourishes when faced with God’s truth and doesn’t allow excuses to prevent transformation. A woman clothed in right living, discernment and grace isn’t faking it – she’s truly trusting in Him – allowing God’s Spirit to respond and react even when she finds herself in a hot mess. A woman committed to change even if she’s the one that needs to change is breathtaking. Real never looked so good.

Choosing to bring our real to the feet of Jesus and ask for His wisdom to guide us shines bright even in our dark world. What we thought or had convinced ourselves was impossible now faces us in the mirror (James 1:22-24). It’s a chance of a lifetime to admit, agree, alter and yes, surrender our real so others get a glimpse of His glory.

“Father, we long to be authentic believers completely honest about our weaknesses and totally dependent on You to transform us.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life


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