Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | April 13, 2023

Time Out -The Ego Fight

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18 (NIV)

If you have siblings, you’ve probably engaged in a word fight with them at some point. When children fight, they go back and forth saying things to one another until one of them tires and the fight ends, though sometimes someone will be crying inconsolably because she ended up in the losing end of the fight.

Sometimes, we adults engage in word fights with one another as well. The big difference between children’s arguments and adults’ arguments, however, is that we seem to find strength in digging up dirt that we know will place the other person in a defensive position and often coward away. Imagine two cats fighting and hissing at each other. That is all fine and dandy; until one of them decides to get its claws out and scratch her opponent right in the eye.

Some people will, during an altercation, use the very things they know about, which have caused the other a lot of pain and hurt.  They will vomit them out in a way to make it sound like that person deserved all the suffering she has gone through in life, even knowing it has taken a long while for that person to heal.

Now, that is simply evil, wouldn’t you agree? But that stuff does happen. People do those things out of spite in the heat of the moment and do not even blink between sentences.  When they are done, the other person is broken, depressed and vulnerable all over again.

Let us ask the Holy Spirit to guard our mouths and our hearts against hurting someone in such a manner. Words can be tough and once they are out, they cannot be taken back.

It is best, during a heated discussion, to take a “me break” and go find a spot where we can regroup.  Let’s talk to the Holy Father and ask for discernment about how to deal with the situation, hopefully, to encourage and edify instead of tearing down.


“Dear Lord, we are human, and we do things we come to regret. Please help us to not hurt others out of spite when our ego feels poked.”


For His Glory

Luska Natali
TRBC Women’s Life

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