Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 26, 2026

Eating In A Real Restaurant – The Art of Gratitude

Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”  1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (ESV)

After work one Friday, I picked up my oldest grandson for the weekend. We had plans to visit my brother out of town, just the two of us.

He climbed into the car with his bag, and I said, “Preston, we’ll grab some supper before we leave town. What would you like to eat?”

At age eleven, I expected the usual answer—fast food burgers and fries. But he paused, thinking it over. Then he surprised me. “I’d like to go to a real restaurant,” he said, “where we can sit at a table and have somebody serve us.”

I smiled. That wasn’t what I expected at all. I quickly ran through a few options—somewhere kid-friendly, with waiters, but not too expensive—and suggested a place like Denny’s or Shoney’s. He liked that idea.

We found a restaurant, went in, and were shown to a table. The waiter brought menus. He was warm and friendly, joking with us, and he seemed to take a special liking to Preston.

When we were ready to order, I chose the meatloaf plate. Preston ordered…oatmeal.

Oatmeal? For dinner?

I have to admit, I felt a little disappointed for him. Out of everything on the menu—burgers, chicken, spaghetti—that was what he chose? I almost tried to steer him toward something else, but I held back. Sometimes it’s best to let people make their own choices.

A few minutes later, the waiter returned with our food. He set my plate down, then placed a bowl of oatmeal in front of Preston. But he didn’t stop there. One by one, he arranged small glass bowls around it—brown sugar, nuts, sliced strawberries, a sprinkle of cinnamon—and a little pitcher of milk.

Preston’s face lit up. He was over-the-top delighted.

Carefully, he mixed in each topping, chatting about what a fine job the waiter had done and how wonderful everything looked. His joy was contagious.

I glanced down at my meatloaf and mashed potatoes and, I’ll admit, wished I had ordered oatmeal.

We bowed our heads to give thanks, and I found myself especially grateful—not just for the food, but for Preston’s thankful heart.

When the waiter brought the check, Preston made a point to compliment him on his service. They joked together for a moment.

When he left with our empty plates, Preston asked me if he could help figure the tip. I don’t remember the exact amount, but I do remember this—it was generous.

That simple meal turned into something special. Yes, the extra touches made a difference. But what stayed with me was something deeper: the quiet beauty of appreciation.

A grateful heart has a way of transforming even the most ordinary moments into gifts.

“Dear Father, thank you for revealing Yourself through the heart of a child. Help us to remember, in good times and bad, that consciously appreciating the things around us – counting our blessings – is pleasing to You and makes life more enjoyable.”

 For His Gory

 

Cherie Harbridge Williams (www.cherieharbridgewilliams.com)
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 25, 2026

When Life Is Not Fair

“Why doesn’t the Almighty bring the wicked to judgment? Why must the godly wait for him in vain?”  Job 24:1

One of the most difficult theological truths to digest is that our world is not fair. If you believe there is a great Designer and Creator of the Universe, then you know what I am really saying is that God is not fair. Have you wrestled with that question?

How do we wrestle and adjust to this truth without being angry with God all the time?

As with most serious theological struggles, you have to begin with your baseline. As Henry Blackaby calls it, “the plumbline.”

Think about it-what do you really believe about who God is?

Do you believe He is the Creator of the Universe?

Do you believe He designed and has a plan for every single person?

Do you believe that He is all knowing and can be trusted?

We have to be honest about each of these answers as we walk through this life and the joy and the pain that it brings. Just because we say a robust YES to all of the above does not mean we are on the cruise ship of life. I would argue the opposite. Paul believed all 3 and his life was full of pain and struggles. Job believed all 3 and his life was shattered and his body was intensely affected.

Our beliefs about God do not determine our earthly circumstances. What we believe about God is displayed as earthly circumstances unfold. We see that in the life of Job. He is begging God for answers while his heart is bleeding. He clings to the belief that God has a plan, and He can be trusted while questioning Him.

Trusting God and accepting the ‘unfairnesses of life is not a 1-2-3 formula. It is clinging to Him when you can’t breathe. It is choosing to trust Him when your heart is shattered. It is questioning Him but accepting when the answers do not come. It is being honest with Him when you don’t like Him. It is lying in bed and knowing He still loves you when every fiber in your being feels like He does not.

C.S. Lewis says it this way, “What do people mean when they say, ‘I am not afraid of God because I know He is good’? Have they never even been to a dentist?”

We can trust the heart of God and earnestly trust Him as the author of our faith, but fear and trepidation can coexist with that as we walk through fires. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abendego were willing to go to the fire, but that does not mean they wanted to.

Remember when Jesus was in the Garden of Gethsemane and He begged God to provide salvation to us any other way than through his beatings, torture, and death. He was in the most extreme spiritual and emotional war of His life. Jesus knew what was coming when He left Heaven and began His life here on Earth as a helpless baby. For 33 years, He knew what was coming and why, and yet, we still see the heart wrenching agony to move forward from the garden to the cross.

Jesus is not condemned for His questions, His emotional reaction, or His desire to handle this any other way. Nor will we be.

Trust that God is big enough to handle our questions, our emotional reactions, and our desires for life to go any other way. Trust Him, talk with Him, but don’t walk away from Him.

“Father, help us cling to You no matter where our emotions and pain take us. Help us hold tight to the hem of your robe when that is all we have to hold on to.”

For His Glory

Terrie Tollerson (TerrieTollerson.com)
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 24, 2026

A Good Report

“And He did not let him, but He said to him, “Go home to your people and report to them what great things the Lord has done for you, and how He had mercy on you.” Mark 5:19

I love the action-oriented Gospel of Mark. It’s fun to see how often he uses the word “immediately”—it’s like there’s an urgency in his telling of Jesus’ life and ministry, which is pretty cool. Anyway, in chapter 5, Mark describes an event when Jesus healed a demon-possessed man (who was actually overtaken by a legion of demons, not just one). Jesus cast out the demons, freeing this man from the torment and pain he’d been living in (Mark 5:1-20). Although the rescued man wanted to go with Jesus and His disciples, Jesus had a different plan for him: Jesus told him to go and “report what great things the Lord has done for you, and how He had mercy on you.”

Have you ever considered this command from Jesus and what it can mean for you? For every believer—whether you’ve been surrendered to Jesus for 50 years or five days—the Lord has done great things for us! Look first at the moment of salvation. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8), paying the penalty of God’s wrath on our behalf. Because of His mercy (not giving us what we deserve), we are rescued from sin and death, being transformed into a new creation—reconciled to God and made righteous in His sight. We are recipients of amazing grace (getting what we don’t deserve). Like the man once possessed, we were prisoners to sin, slaves to fear and self. But Jesus made us free.

Then there are the countless mercies—new every morning, in fact—that the Lord provides. Miracle after miracle around us, from the breathtaking sunrise and blooming flowers to financial provision and physical healing, demonstrate constant evidence of the Lord’s work in our lives. And as we walk in the direction of obedience toward Heaven, we are being made more and more like Jesus—this, too, is a Great Thing being accomplished by the power of the Holy Spirit living in us.

There is so, so much bad news in the world (and thanks to 24/7 global media, we can hear it all). If you’re like me, you probably watch the news and pine for just one good report—some positive news amid the darkness. But, friend, as followers of Jesus, we have very Good News to report! We are living testimonies to the Way, the Truth, and the Life—the freedom resulting from salvation is indisputable. And it is a bright light shining into a lost and broken world.

So, let’s act upon the command Jesus gave to the transformed man in Mark’s gospel. Starting at home and then going to all our “people”…let’s go make a good report of what the Lord has done.

“Lord, You rescued me and freed me from the bondage of sin. You have done great things and Your mercy is overwhelming. Give me the boldness to go out and give a good report.”

 

For His Glory

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 23, 2026

Best Beauty Secret Ever


“Those who look to Him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed.”  Psalm 34:5 (ESV)

Beauty is often uncovered in the most unlikely places. Like a hidden gem buried just waiting to rise up from under the surface. Beauty isn’t always pretty; it’s often messy and hard leaving us focused on the ugly versus the potential of awe inspiring gorgeous. Like when heavy fog lifts and a glimmer of sunlight beams through at just the right moment. Like a dark storm cloud drenching us in rain while a rainbow emerges down the road. Like a hard season can blind us to the grace and mercy of another day.

Perhaps you’ve ventured down this path with me – this journey of longing for the ease of life because it looks better on us. The visible carefree life appearing more desirable than the undoing of ourselves. The joy dance more appealing than tear stained cheeks and a broken heart. Laughter is desired over sorrow, and so we buy into the illusion that only goodness follows the faithful.

We miss out, sweet friends when we shortchange the beauty God is birthing in the midst of our hardest places. Journeys we dared not even imagine. A crumbling of self preservation to unveil the vulnerable places in our souls. Intentional fruitfulness disguised as challenges and trials. A grand stewardship of God’s story entrusted to us.

So what would happen if instead of fighting against hard, we embraced it? Rather than wallow in our challenges, we’d purposefully choose to feel them and run into the arms of  Jesus. What if our days of being unable to give voice to our hearts simply birthed our deepest worship?

Wonder how we could endure the unthinkable and still land on our feet secure in His solid foundation? Unshakeable. Unmoveable. Weathering the storm – changed forever because we sought refuge in Him. Clinging to God’s every word fully aware He’s heard all of ours – self-pity, frustration, fear, disappointment and sheer desperation – yet He never leaves or forsakes us.

Despite our abundance of doubts and questions, our Father God welcomes us to draw near – lingering, learning and  trusting. Blessed are those who take refuge in Him, and those who seek Him lack no good thing (Psalm 34). Ever so gently He binds up our wounds. He heals our brokenness. He cleanses us from any revealed sins. He restores our soul. He tenderly guides us each step of the way unveiling the hidden gem within us. He lovingly holds us, carries us until we can walk again forever changed by His presence. Totally dependent and void of self, the radiance on our face evidence of  beauty God is developing within us.

You, sweet friend, are never more beautiful than when you rise up from the hardest places reflecting the love, truth and grace of our God. Shining through the darkest nights. Birthing hope in those whose journeys are just beginning. Reflecting the immense beauty developed within you because you have been with Jesus.

“Father, Your presence with us transforms the hardest places into precious moments when Your love covers, heals and creates a beauty in us we would have never known.”

For His Glory

 

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 20, 2026

Unwavering Hope

“He (Abraham) believed, hoping against hope, so that he became the father of many nations according to what been spoken; so will your descendants be.” Romans 4:18 (HCSB)

Ever had the odds stacked against you? The negatives far outweighing the positives. The “no ways” shouting loud and clear drowning out the “maybes.” The possibilities evaporating right before your eyes. Endings staring you in the face as dreams fade in the distance.

It takes tremendous courage to keep believing when time starts running out. It takes boldness to keep trusting when promises go unfilled. It takes a deep committed faith that stretches for what it can’t still see. It’s the stuff that pleases God the most when hope doesn’t’ cave in and give up but rather chooses to hold on tight with confidence – that’s faith!

A journey of faith characterized Abraham’s life. Genesis 12 unveils the promises of God – invigorating, hope givers. “I will make you into a great nation. I will bless you and make your name great and you will be a blessing,” promises flowing from our Creator God. Echoing deep in the heart of one who left it all to follow His God. With no idea of where he was going and no timeline of when God’s words would be fulfilled, Abraham embarked on an amazing journey.

Love the way scripture doesn’t leave out those moments of doubt or struggles when Abraham zeroed in on circumstances. Twice he lied and misrepresented his wife for the sake of insecurities. At age 86 and no offspring in the picture, Abraham gave in to the wishes of his wife and slept with her handmaid. Manipulating God’s time table didn’t serve any of them well. Chaos and drama multiplied, yet God renewed and enlarged his covenant. At age 100 Abraham and his wife had their son, Isaac – the fulfillment of God’s promise.

Faith in the midst of hopelessness is beautiful. It propels us forward to boldly and courageously hold tight to God’s promises. It reminds us that taking things into our own hands never serves us well. And, if we persist faithfully trusting our God despite overwhelming circumstances then those who see, hear and live through our story will be impacted as well.

“Father, we want to be women who hope against hopelessness – fully trusting You without wavering.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 19, 2026

God’s Mystery

“I don’t think the way you think.  The way you work isn’t the way I work”. Isaiah 55:8 (MSG)

I have a confession to make.  Lately, my husband and I have been watching Hallmark movies.  Watch enough movies and you know how the plot will begin, turn and land.  Attractive, talented, everything you wish you were girl meets whatever you need me to be guy.  In two hours, well actually usually within the final fifteen minutes of the film, their lives are perfectly re-configured for an eternity of togetherness and bliss and positioned for a follow up story next season.  No mystery, no surprises with an ending exactly as expected.

If only life were this way! And we try!  We specify, itemize and organize.  Craft timelines, goals and milestones.  Leave out no detail lest the outcome be altered.  Compare our path with others and adjust to come out ahead.  Control is our driver as we blindly make plans with no promise and serve a god void of vision.   We would be well advised to heed the words spoken through the prophet Isaiah that God’s thoughts are not our thoughts and our ways not His.  Does this mean that all of my preparation is in vain?  No, a devotion to God’s purpose is a critical first step.  As a plan unfolds, the basic framework needs to be established.  However, in our zeal to accomplish and our haste to attain, we often fail to leave room for God.

Do we allow God to go before and prepare the paths we will take? Surrendered, we trust He is good and that He delights to give good things to His children.  Are we willing to be uncomfortable and wait until He gives direction and purpose?  In obedience, we study His Word, commune with Him and follow His decrees. He will not fail or forsake and carries us even into the most difficult places of life.  With preconceived ideas as to how things are to play out, we will miss out on God’s response and solution if we’re not open to seeing Him work in unexpected and unique ways.  Many times, I’ve delayed or circumvented my healing because God was doing a work in a way that I wasn’t receptive to receive.

Will we deny self, pick up our cross He created us for and daily follow our path’s light, as dim as it may seem?

“Father, we are a people in need of You for we so easily go astray.  Today, moment by moment, may You guide our steps, may we listen for Your voice and choose obedience over want.”

 

For His Glory

Kathryn Hayman
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 18, 2026

Seasons

 

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”  Ecclesiastes 3:1 (ESV)

Seasons come and seasons go and sometimes seasons even overlap. If you live in Central Virginia, you experienced that firsthand this week as we were beginning our tans on Wednesday and back in parkas and gloves on Thursday! It was the craziest of crazy weather weeks, even by Virginia standards!

My grandson, 3, was glued to the window enjoying each snow flurry! He could not wait to go sledding with his daddy and get all of the joy snow brings. But that was not to be. Within an hour or two, the snow was gone and the sun was peeking out again. Many of us were thankful this season was short lived! My sweet grandson was not because snow was a season of joy for him.

Watching the seasons overlap in real time gave me insight into our lives as Believers. We desire that each season is marked by a beginning and a clear end and once we have made it to the spring, we do not want any reminders of winter again.

We all have seasons of joy, seasons of mourning, seasons of growth, seasons of stagnation, seasons of love, seasons of hurt, seasons we want to stay in and seasons we cannot wait to get away from. Our lives and the lives of those around us are full of seasons. Just like the weather, circumstances come and go, and we have no control over them. Not only for ourselves, but for those around us.

Just a few quick thoughts as reminders for this week:

-We are not all in the same season.

-When you feel stuck, remember seasons do come and go. Keep trusting the One who created them.

-Have grace for those whose winter is taking longer than you ‘think’ it should.

-Don’t be surprised when our (or other’s) seasons overlap, spiritually or emotionally.

As the great theologian, TobyMac, sings in Cornerstone,

Seasons comе and seasons go

They take mе high, then leave me low

But I’m still standin’ on the only Rock I know

You’re my Cornerstone

“Father, help us to cling to You as You walk with us through every season.”

 

For His Glory

 

Terrie  Tollerson  (www.TerrieTollerson.com)
TRBC Women’s Life

 

 

 

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 17, 2026

So That


 

“In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” Matthew 5:16

As followers of Jesus Christ, we’re to, well, follow Him. How do we do that since He’s not actually walking among us at this time? The answer to this is simple. First, God gave us His Word—and we in America are blessed and privileged to have unlimited access to Bibles. In fact, unlike many parts of the world, we’re a click away from having any Bible in our favorite translation, format, even color. In the Bible, we can read the full redemption story from Genesis through Revelation, with ample instruction (especially from Matthew’s gospel forward), on how to live out our Christian walk. Next—and this is an astounding reality—the Lord has placed the Holy Spirit inside us at the moment of salvation. We have the Third Person of the Trinity Himself living in us to guide, counsel, and convict us as we move toward our ultimate Home.

See, so simple! But easy? Nope. As saved fallen people, we still battle against our fleshly desires—we’re not slaves to them anymore, praise the Lord, but that dog is still within us until we’re glorified with Christ (Romans 7:15-20; Galatians 5:17; 1 Peter 2:11). And there are all those broken, lost people around us with whom we interact daily. Just driving these days gives one enough fodder for murderous hatred in the heart (Matthew 5:21-22). Then there’s the enemy of our soul, Satan, always prowling around like a lion, seeking an opportunity to devour us (1 Peter 5:8), to kill, steal, and destroy all that the Lord is doing in our lives (John 10:10).

So, we have the how. What we need is a solid “why” to follow hard after Jesus. Have you given thought to your Christ-following impetus? Do you obey the Word of God like it’s a set of rules needing to be checked off—can I get a witness, all you list-making, rule-following perfectionists? Or does fear motivate you—trepidation that you must do the right thing “or else” there’s chastisement or punishment sure to follow? And, although this is a longer devo-conversation than we have time for here, some of us walk in obedience to God to “earn” the salvation that is a blood-bought, grace-given, by-faith gift (Ephesians 2:1-10).

Since becoming a believer nearly 30 years ago, Matthew 5:16 has been one of my go-to verses. I love its clear simplicity. As a follower of Christ, you and I are to shine! To be salt and light in this decaying, dark world. (See previously noted how-to guidelines.) And what’s really cool about this verse is the why—our motivation—is right there…in just two little words: so that. Now, we’re in a bit of a pickle if we just read the phrase immediately following: “that they may see your good works.” Throughout His ministry, Jesus goes after the Pharisees for doing good works to be noticed by others, motivated by the accolades of men (see the whole Sermon on the Mount, for example). The Apostle Paul also exhorts us to not care about what others think about us, but to do all things for the Audience of One (verse). It’s the last part of the verse that ties together the whole why: “so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.”

There it is! The very reason for our obedience to Jesus. The motivation to follow Him, to love God with our all and love others. Our objective is to point others to the Lord—to live in such a way, through our blessings, trials, and downright dark times, that people around us would say, “I’m not sure what’s up with you…but I want to know the reason for your hope, joy, and faith” (1 Peter 3:13-15). As believers, when we love others, it’s because God first loved us. When we extend grace, mercy, and forgiveness, it’s out of an overflow of the grace, mercy, and forgiveness we’ve been given through Christ. And every word and each action that reflects Jesus, gives glory to God. So, as we wake up each day in this world but on our way to the next, let’s make glorifying God our joy-filled, shout-it-from-the-rooftops “so that.”

“Lord, thank You for Your Word. Thank You for the Holy Spirit living in me. May I joyfully follow after Jesus to give You glory and point others to You.”

 

For His Glory

 

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 16, 2026

Why Shortcuts Serve Us Well

“Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning.” Proverbs 9:9 (ESV)

Shortcuts – we all love them don’t we?  When I’m on a road trip if someone can tell me how to shave off heavy traffic and arrive at my destination sooner, I’m all in.  If I’m taking on a new task at work and my computer is driving me crazy, I can greatly benefit from someone showing me the way versus wasting time.  And when it comes to my morning routine, I’d love input on how to cut that time in half.

Yes, the pros of shortcuts are priceless.  We can get more done.  We can get somewhere faster.  We can reach the end result without frustration.  Shortcuts save time, make life doable and serve us well. It’s the ultimate win – win solution.

One of my fave shortcuts is testimony (our God story).  Yes, you heard me right – someone’s testimony often saves me from a myriad of mistakes and consequences.  Hearing their story, without the coverup, gives me a front row seat in how to do life or not do life.  By intentionally listening to how God has worked through their story teaches me volumes about life.  The good, bad and ugly align to showcase God’s redemptive power and invite me to seize those lessons for myself.

So you may be wondering how do I take advantage of these shortcuts or how can I share what God has done in my life?  Well, sweet friends, the answer is simple – mentoring.  Yes, you got it.  When we have a teachable spirit and invite others into our circle, we gain powerful insights.  Welcoming a mentor allows us to glean deep lessons and build solid relationships with those who are further along in their faith journey.  Choosing to be a mentor reminds us of God’s redemptive work in our story and allows us to guide someone else by sharing tips on navigating life. The sweetest blessing ever is watching someone growing deep in their faith.

Webster defines a mentor as a trusted counselor, guide, tutor, coach, wise and faithful teacher.  Quite the job description yet one divinely given by God (Titus 2:3-4).  Doing life solo never serves us well. We need community, and we flourish when we release the “I’ve got it all figured out” stance.

My life has been graced with several mentors who poured into my soul, teaching me how to parent as a single mom, encouraging me through tough talks and lots of prayer.  Their wisdom, friendship and godliness were priceless.  Can’t imagine doing life without them cheering me on and sharing their story with me.  So to one who has been given much – much is required right?  One of the reasons I’ve enjoyed mentoring others is remembering how God used other women to strengthen my walk in the Lord and kept my eyes focused on Him rather than them.

Can’t think of a better shortcut than to glean from godly mentors and then pay it forward by serving others in the same way.

“Father, we have been given the beautiful gift of community – an opportunity to do life together, learn from one another and grow in our faith.  Help us to embrace those You bring into our path and honor You by encouraging and inspiring others.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | March 13, 2026

Unpacking Lessons

“Thus says the Lord, the God of Israel: Write in a book all the words that I have spoken to you.” Jeremiah 30:2 (ESV)

Ever attempted to cook a 45 minute gourmet meal in half the time? Ever short-changed the steps in hopes of a quick yet elegant dessert? Settling for quick is highly overrated. There’s a reason for timing – the juices simmer and tenderize the meat. And the crazy madness in keeping those steps in order – well it can make a huge difference in moist versus overbaked when it comes to desserts. Could probably write a book on all my mishaps for the sake of getting it done, in the oven and on the table. Quick never satisfies my taste buds.

Ever attempted to drive-thru a significant event just so you can move on? Ever short-changed the lessons God birthed through an experience in hopes of never looking back?

Unpacking the nuggets of truth that surround life events is crucial. Everything that touches our lives has the potential to instruct, teach and reveal. Challenges and crisis speak volumes, but we often settle for survival rather than reaching deeper to thrive. Growth and transformation can only occur when we slow down, digest the details, commit them to paper and prayerfully seek God’s revelation.

A journal on my desk keeps my lists of “Lessons Learned.” Intentionally, I have simmered the positives, negatives and crucial truths in my journey. Skipping the step to capture them would have made a huge difference when forgetfulness slipped in. Details are often lost in the scope of time. God’s divine provision is often dismissed when the crisis lifts. Choosing to unpack simple, yet profound God unveilings serves us well – true satisfaction.

“Father, every day is an opportunity to learn more about You, to uncover Your will and walk humbly in Your truth.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Older Posts »

Categories