Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 15, 2026

Why Are We Surprised By Our Emotions

“God is our Refuge and our Strength, always ready to help in times of trouble.”  Psalm 46:1(NLT)

Why do believers in Jesus Christ separate their emotions from their walk with Him?

I have talked to so many people who have walked through painful and tragic circumstances, and they almost always apologize for their emotions. Sometimes there is even a sense of shame. Shame for being angry or depressed because they have been betrayed by the one they have committed their life to. Shame because grief overwhelms them, and some days they cannot get out of bed because of the losses they’ve endured. Shame because they are isolated and feel so unseen by everyone. They are angry because they desire relationships and cannot attain them.

Are these emotions from God? Does God want us to feel shame about them?

God is not surprised at our emotions. He has them, too, and we were created in His image. Does that mean every emotion we feel or act on is godly? Of course not! I think we would all agree on that. When our emotions are in control, the Holy Spirit is not; however, that does not mean our emotions are not fully felt, can be valid, and that God understands them.

I want to take a look at a few verses in Psalms to share with you that feeling emotion is not a sin and can actually draw us nearer to God if we are honest and continue talking with Him.

-Psalm 143:7-”Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die.”  (depression, sadness, fear, anxiety)

-Psalm 142:2-3-”I pour out my complaints before Him and tell Him all my troubles. When I am overwhelmed, You alone know the way I should turn.” (feeling heavy, angry, anxious)

-Psalm 137:8-9-”Babylon, you will be destroyed. Happy is the one who pays you back for what you have done to us. Happy is the one who takes your babies and smashes them against the rocks!”(revenge, anger, unforgiveness, rage)

There are many more verses in Scripture, but these showcase emotions without sugarcoating. These were real people facing real challenges, difficulties, and heartbreak. God does not condemn them for feeling this way.

Notice two things-

  1. They are talking to God. The only One Who “…is near to the brokenhearted,”(Psalm 34:18) can “Work all things out together for good,”(Romans 8:28)  and can answer us, “…because You are faithful and righteous.”  (Psalm 143:1).
  2. They are being honest about where they are emotionally.

God does not ask us to hide our pain, anger, or anxiety from Him. In fact, He says just the opposite. Psalm 46:1 states, “God is our Refuge and our Strength, always ready to help in times of trouble.”

When we are overwhelmed by our emotions, it is a reminder to run to Him. Generally speaking, we feel strength when we have pleasant emotions. It is our painful emotions that lead to sin-our words hurting others, our anger being out of control, our anxiety causing us paralyzation, our vengeance overtaking our mind, or our grief controlling us. Our emotions are not sinful; it is how we choose to handle them.

There is absolutely a time for our emotions, but it is not for those to control us. Ecclesiastes tells us there is “a time for everything” and chapter 1 verse 4 says, “ a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,”

Feelings are allowed. Behaviors that do not honor God are not.

C.S. Lewis talks about pain this way, “Pain insists upon being tended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our consciences, but shouts in our pains. It is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”

Pain is not the enemy. Walking away from God because of our pain is. Not talking with Him anymore, acting out on our pain, and choosing to blame Him because of the pain of living in a fallen world are all dangers we face.

If you are in a difficult or painful season right now, please run to Him. Find a place of solitude and share your emotions with Him-He can handle it. He is not surprised. And it does not change how He feels about you. He adores you, and He wants to be the One you run to.

“Father, help us to run to You first when the waves of pain and emotion rise to drown us. Thank You for understanding us and loving us through everything.”

For His Glory

Terrie Tollerson – www.TerrieTollerson.com
TRBC Women’s Life

 

 

 

 

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 14, 2026

Seeing Myself In the Wandering

“For every house is built by someone, but the builder of all things is God. Now Moses was faithful in all God’s house as a servant, for a testimony of those things which were to be spoken later; but Christ was faithful as a Son over His house—whose house we are, if we hold firmly to our confidence and the boast of our hope.” Hebrews 3:4-6

Do you ever read the Exodus events and think, “Good grief! How could those Israelites be so dumb? How could they complain and continue to be so disobedient when God (a) miraculously rescued them from slavery in Egypt and (b) continually and miraculously provides for them daily?” They see His glorious works, yet when He tells them what’s next i.e., entering into the Promise Land—they’re like, “Nope. We can’t possibly trust Your plan, God. We prefer to do things our way.” Silly Israelites.

Early on in my walk with the Lord, whenever I studied God’s people in the Old Testament, I’d practically shout at the page as if they could hear me: “You literally just experienced God’s Sovereignty and provision! How could you respond with complaints and gripes—or worse yet, turn to worship idols?!” But the older I get and the longer I travel with Jesus, the more empathy I have for those Israelites (and the less harsh I judge them). It’s not that I read these incidents with any less head-shaking or perceive the people as any less dumb…I just have come to recognize the same foolishness in my own life.

See, just like the Israelites in the Exodus events, believers like you and me are surrounded by God’s miracles every day. And—I’ll speak for myself here—I find myself complaining way too much and even turning to idols. I kick against the goad of what the Lord is telling me to do…and I trust more in my plans and ways (asking Him to bless them) versus trusting in His higher ways that are unfathomable to me (Isaiah 55:8-9). I mean, how much different from the Israelite crowd would I have been, really, given my own behavior today? Sadly, I’d likely be whining about how good things used to be in Egypt, how sick I am of manna for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and how delicious a quail sandwich would be.

Friend, the Israelites’ experience foreshadowed our abundant life in Christ. Consider these truths with me:

  • The Israelites were spared death through the blood of a lamb and rescued out of bondage to the Egyptians (Exodus 12:1-13). I was spared eternal death through the Blood of the Lamb and rescued out of bondage to sin and darkness.
  • They had the glorious presence of God leading their every step—a pillar of smoke during the day and fire at night (Exodus 13:21-22). I have the very presence of God living in me—the Holy Spirit—guiding, counseling, convicting, and leading me every step of the way (if I yield to Him).
  • The Israelites were given daily bread from heaven (manna) to feed their bodies and fuel their journey to the Promise Land (Exodus 16:4). I have been given the Bread of Life, Jesus, who nourishes my soul and fuels my journey to the ultimate Promised Land: Heaven.
  • The Israelites were provided water from a rock to quench their desert thirst (Exodus 17:1-7). I have Living Water from the Chief Cornerstone, Jesus Christ—never to thirst again for the things of this world that will never satisfy.
  • The Lord visited the Israelites in the desert, coming down to the mountain on the third day—but they could not go near the mountain for threat of death (Exodus 19). Oh, sweet friend, God came down again—Emmanuel—to visit His people. And after His brutal death on the cross (the death we deserve), He rose again on the third day to end the separation with God and bring us close to Himself.

As followers of Jesus Christ, my life and yours is truly filled with miracles—the greatest being our salvation by grace through faith. Let’s step away from the complaining crowd. Instead, let’s keep our eyes open to see God’s Providence, provision, and glorious work each day. Let’s put away the griping and the “my way” attitude, yielding to the great God-glorifying things He is doing around us.

“Lord, forgive me for taking my eyes off of You and pushing away Your hand in my life. May I focus (without complaint!) on the daily miracles You provide—and join You in Your work.”

 For His Glory

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 13, 2026

Avoiding Spiritual Drought

“Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water.” John 7:38 ( ESV) “His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us to His own glory and excellence.” 2 Peter 1:3 (ESV)

In case you haven’t already heard – we’ve been in a drought.  Yes, Virginia is experiencing a prolonged season of extreme hot and humid weather with very little rainfall.  My beautiful flowers beg for water every day, and I have to admit some days the humidity is so high, I simply don’t want to go outside. While quenching their thirst doesn’t rank high on my list, I do love  vibrant blooms.  Reality is the trade-off is to endure the sweat or lose the beauty.

Ever felt as though you were in a drought?  A dry season when life appeared dull or empty. God seemed far away as our prayers hit against the wall.  Joy faded quickly and worship was -let’s just admit it – nonexistent.  Our enthusiasm and desire for God’s word hit an all time low as stunted spiritual growth stared back at us in the mirror.  And the evidence of our actions displayed  more of us and less of Him.

Wow – not the place any of us would really want to land, right?

Just like soil needs moisture to nourish and grow its crops, we physically can’t live without water, nor can we thrive without “living water ” to quench our spiritual bodies. As believers in Jesus, we have been given this overflowing well of living water through the Holy Spirit who dwells in us.   The evidence of this living water enables us to produce spiritual fruit and walk in obedience to God.  Yet if we suppress, hinder or extinguish the influence of the Holy Spirit and seek to do life on our own terms then drought of the soul will eventually define us.

Best solution is to recognize the signs of a spiritual drought before it has time to overwhelm us.  When we easily skip over our time in God’s word on repeat, we are setting ourselves up for a parched soul.  Void of a connection with God, we will find ourselves apathetic towards His truth.  Joy will definitely fade as emptiness attempts to fill the void in our lives.  Pivotal truths we learned will be excused or compromised to better fit our agenda.

Bottom line, spiritual drought can be avoided if we heed the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives and walk in obedience to God.  “Search me and try me O God and know my heart!  Try me and know my thoughts!  And see if there be any grievous way in me and lead me in the way everlasting, echoed from the lips of David, a man after God’s own heart.  We would be wise to utter these same words every day and genuinely welcome what the Holy Spirit reveals in us. Confession is a beautiful gift if we offer it to God from a truly repentant heart:  confess sin (name it) seek the Spirit’s help in turning away from it and walking in obedience to God empowered by the Holy Spirit.

“Father, help us to avoid a spiritual drought by intentionally choosing to be transformed by the Holy Spirit’s work in us so we will radiate Your beauty to our world.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 10, 2026

Godly Friends Dig Deep

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As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)

Arms full, I sat down my computer bag and darted for the Coke machine.  Road trip thirst had left me longing for some caffeine.  Quenched my parched throat and headed to the hotel reservation desk.  Checked in, glanced at watch 11:30 pm and dragged myself to our room. However, the organizer in me couldn’t quite slip into bed without first unpacking my bags, nibbling on some stale cookies and recharging my computer.  Problem was my computer bag was missing.

Trying to calm myself, I searched the room, however, panic returned quickly.  No bag found, we began retracing our steps and then I remembered lugging it into the hotel lobby.  Last place, I’d seen that bag.  A return trip to the front desk and I found my now “suspicious bag” in the manager’s office and rescued it before they called the police. Amazing how our world now views anything left, discarded as suspect.

Got anything in our lives that looks suspicious?   Any reasons for others to question or be alarmed by our behavior, our words, our Facebook posts, etc.  Now one might quickly respond that others shouldn’t judge, question or zero in on our world.  One might even be tempted to dismiss a friend’s probing conversation.  But God’s word reminds us that “iron sharpens iron” – don’t we want iron in our friendships?  Don’t we want to be more than acceptors and excusers when things don’t seem to be okay?

What if the suspicious bag in the hotel lobby was not my computer?  The safety of all the guests could have been compromised.  Same thing is true in our world.  I’d much rather explain what looked suspect than dismiss what could be a huge red flag. Godly friends dig deep because they value the souls of those they love.  They pray and seek God’s wisdom and timing in asking hard questions.  They always confront the issue without attacking the person. And they treat others the way they desire to be treated – full of grace, love and mercy.

“Father, You have safeguarded our lives with those who have earned the right to speak into our “suspicious” places. Give us courage and grace to be iron that sharpens iron.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 9, 2026

About Our Father’s Business

“Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house?” Luke 2:49 (NIV)

I have seen many a t-shirt and many a hat with the words “Gone Fishing” printed on them. While these two words are there as a simple joke to let others know of one’s love of fishing, they also serve as a reminder to the people wearing them that they have a love for the sport. They will make time and find a way to go fishing as often as they possibly can. While I have not fished more than a handful of times, I do have a couple of passions of my own, which include, of course, writing. Give me pen and paper or a laptop, and I am a happy camper! Filling blank pages with words is something that I would not trade for just any other activity. While I can write about anything; however, I choose to use my gift of writing to tell Bible stories with the intent of bringing my readers into the stories with me.

The Lord Jesus was such a wonderful role model of ministry to others; He was passionate about His Father’s business and would pass up anything else He could be doing just to be with people, teaching them, loving them, praying with them, and healing them.

We are all important parts of the body of Christ, aka His church. There are no “unimportant” persons in the church, just as there are no “unimportant” parts in the human body system. We all play a significant role in keeping the body healthy and strong. Your area of giftedness may be working with children, youth, or adults; it may be teaching, or doing “fun” things such as plays, musicals, vacation Bible school, and so forth. It may be mentoring young Christians, or leading Bible study groups. It may be praying for others or visiting those who cannot leave their homes. Whatever your area of giftedness is, wear it proudly. Do it often. Be excited about it. Hone your skills so you can do it well. We don’t need a special t-shirt, hat, or sign over our door, but our modus operandi should always reflect the love of God.

“Father God, You are so good to us. Please help us to reflect Your goodness to those around us, especially those who need to know You.”

For His Glory

Luska Natali
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 8, 2026

The Waves

Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6 (ESV)

Last week I had one of the highlight weeks of my life-I was at the beach with most of my family and the two most perfect grandsons ever:)! It was wonderful to be with everyone and just relax watching the waves roll in. You know, the weeks you try to remember every detail and soak in the moments. It fed my soul and reminded me of what is important in life.

It reminded me of last summer when my three-year-old grandson was all about sand-building castles and moats, burying anyone who would let him, and bulldozing and dumping wherever he could. It was so fun to watch him. His parents tried to take him in the ocean, but he would run from it each time. He did not even like the water to get too close to his castles, yet he loved playing on the beach!

We arrived on Saturday and on Thursday he, my sweet grandson, decided he may want to try the water. He was carried into the ocean very slowly and with great care. Every step was discussed and measured before moving forward. He held onto his Daddy’s neck for dear life, and he would peek out at the ocean and then turn and bury his head on his Daddy’s shoulder. After several attempts, he was ready to go in a little deeper. As the waves would come his Daddy would lift him up over the waves, smile at him, and remind him that he was safe. He told him he would be okay because he (his dad) would never leave him out there alone.

As I sat and watched, and took pictures and videos of course, I was overwhelmed with God’s goodness to me. This may seem like an idyllic beach trip we have done forever, but it is a gift. It was less than ten years ago that I was a single mom juggling three jobs and four children. Life seemed to be only one wave after another, and I felt as if I was being pulled under and barely gasping for breath to survive. But God. He was always in the waves with me, and He never left my side. I was never out there alone.

I could not always see it then because the waves were so strong and I was so scared, but I know I was never left alone, not for a second.

As I reflected back on last summer, I was reminded how faithful God has been this past year. I want to encourage you of two things. One is that God is a good, good Father, and the second is that you can trust Him to never leave you no matter how deep and how strong the waves are coming in.

“Father, please help us to know you are our good Father and hold tight to You no matter what life brings our way.”

 

For His Glory

Terrie Tollerson-www.TerrieTollerson.com
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 7, 2026

Mirror, Mirror

“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”  Romans 8:1(ESV)

Has it happened to you? You’re enjoying a delicious dinner out with friends, talking and laughing the hours away. A few sweet teas into the evening, you hit the restroom and gaze at your reflected smile…only to see a big green hunk of spinach between your teeth. The mirror has shown you what your friends didn’t tell you—and you couldn’t see.

So, we take down the mirror off the wall and use it to clean our teeth, right? Of course not! The mirror only reveals the problem, it doesn’t fix it.

This is a perfect analogy for God’s law. Throughout the Bible, the Jews were trying to use the law to achieve a level of holiness that would be acceptable to God. Even today, followers of nearly every world religion—and many Christians—believe the “rules” are steppingstones to salvation.

But sweet friend, the law was never meant to be the way to God. Our Father in heaven is perfect, and He requires nothing less than perfection. So striving for rule-following, no matter how hard we try, will fail. Humans are not perfect, and we are incapable of following God’s law with perfect righteousness.

Just like the bathroom mirror that reveals food caught in your teeth, the law is meant to show us we are not good enough for a perfect, Holy God. His law shows us how unrighteous we really are so we’ll run to the only One Who is perfect. Jesus came to this earth, fully God and fully man, to pay the price for our sinfulness. Because He died for us and rose again, we are able to accept His gift of grace and be made perfect in God’s eyes.

The mirror cannot remove the spinach from our teeth. But it was necessary to recognize there was a problem—a big hunk of green. And trying to follow God’s rules will not remove the stain of sin from our lives. The law shows us there’s a problem…but Jesus Christ is the only answer.

“Lord, there is only one way for us to perfectly reflect You—by accepting what Jesus did on my behalf. Thank you for revealing my sin and for paying the price.”

For His Glory

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 6, 2026

When You Feel Left Behind – Hold On Tight To Him

“Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14 (ESV)

I’m not the best gardener. Watering my flowers gets pushed further down my list than I would dare admit. Wilting in the hot, humid air describes them most days because I just simply get distracted and forget to water them. But despite my neglect, they somehow survived. And to my great surprise, I found a new flowering plant springing up amongst the weeds of an old window box. Not really sure what it is and I’m positive I didn’t water, nurture or plant it. It simply appeared in mid-summer – a beautiful shade of bright pink – my sweet late bloomer.

Wonder how many times we shortchange growth for our “late bloomer” moments? Ever stifled the gifts, callings and purposes God has for us because we should have done it sooner? It’s so easy to think we should have achieved, accomplished or surpassed where we are. We glimpse those around us running full speed ahead and become overwhelmed at our lack of progress. Sadly those words settle in and deprive us of moving forward, stretching and reaching. Lingering in the land of what ifs never serves us well.

Wouldn’t you rather bloom late than never bloom at all? Even if we appear behind schedule to others watching our arrival, wouldn’t we rather keep pressing toward the prize? God is more impressed with our obedience than He is with someone else’s timetable. His plans are unique and strategic. He knows the paths our lives will take and the story that will unfold from start to finish. Unlike me, He is the Master Gardener who won’t neglect His late bloomers.

So sweet friend in case you’re feeling left behind or cast aside – hold on tight to the One who knows exactly the moment for His glory to shine through. Don’t give up or step aside. Don’t listen to the voice of defeat or regret. Instead lean in close and wait for His timing. And just when we may think we’ve missed the mark, God will burst forth our greatest growth if we stay in step with Him.

“Father, You are forever cheering us on – not zeroing in on where we might have been – but completely in awe of where we are going with You.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 3, 2026

Longing For God’s Purpose

“So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.” Psalm 90:12 (ESV)

We often measure our lives by careers, possessions, bank accounts, social circles, marital status – I think you get the picture.  Today’s world evolves around purpose, performance and accomplishments – not necessarily what we are accomplishing – but that we are doing.  Striving for the proverbial world’s view of success spins our little feet until they total wear out. And so most people as they age navigate to a slower lifestyle…a quieter resolve…until they leave this world.

Sitting and watching the sunset sounds enticing doesn’t it?  But what if we intentionally never gave up on our purpose – why God has ordained each of our days?

My husband’s sweet little aunt Emma probably never measured up to the world’s view of purpose or accomplishment.  She was single all of her life.  Her career as a school teacher and her modest home didn’t’ scream success. Yet her love for family, especially her nieces and nephews, didn’t go unnoticed.  Birthday cakes, prayers and phone calls characterized the influential impact Emma made on their lives.

Residing in an assisted living facility, Emma  prayed and searched for  her purpose in that season of life.  Did I fail to mention she was 95?  Her frail body had suffered several setbacks from broken bones, Covid, etc. life hadn’t been easy.  Yet despite her restraints and declining health, Emma longed for God’s purpose for the rest of her days.

Don’t know about you, but I often fail to think about God’s purpose because I’m so busy with my purpose.  Navigating and maneuvering my days seeking to fulfill what I desire in the moment.  And if I reach Emma’s 95 years of life, I would probably be content to simply watch the sunset.

Emma, however, saw purpose even in her aging body and mind.  If she was still here on this earth, then God had something He desired for her to do.  And isn’t it just like God to let Emma in on His purpose for her days.  Emma become an encourager and prayer warrior right there within the confines of her room.  She was serving those who served her and those who were residents with the gift of prayer. I can only imagine the smile on God’s face when she came to His throne interceding for those He brought into her path.

Sweet friends only God knows the number of our days.  How will we use those days to honor, serve and glorify Him until we step into His presence?  Even as our bodies age and begin to deteriorate, our voices are not silenced.  God can still use us in a powerful way to show His love, truth and grace to those we meet. Purpose is not a striving or doing but a listening to the Holy Spirit leading us every single day.

“Father, praising You for the testimony of Emma and how You used her in a powerful way to touch so many lives.  Trusting You to show us how to spend every one of our days for your glory.”

 

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | July 2, 2026

Loves Warning

“I (Jesus) have told you these things to keep you from stumbling.” John 16:1 (CSB)

At a resort that I managed in the tourist area of Central Florida, there was a large common area bordered by timeshare condominiums. We had a large pool, a shuffleboard court, and a children’s playground area. There was also a grassy area under a spreading oak tree with two picnic tables. The head of maintenance was skilled at construction, so I asked him to build a brick barbecue pit with a gas grill. It was a big, beautiful grill where families could have outdoor picnics, and it was popular with the guests. To be safe, I had a red plastic sign attached with instructions for using the grill, should someone inexperienced not know how to use it properly.

It was a big hit until the day a guest came into my office with very pink skin and his eyebrows singed off. I was horrified. It was hard to make out his explanation since he couldn’t emphasize enough that it was all my fault. He had gone outside to the grill to cook his burgers the evening before. He had trouble getting it lit, so he left the gas on while he walked back to his apartment, got a newspaper (the gas was still on), rolled it up, walked back to the grill, and lit a match to the paper. There was a huge WHOOSH. His eyebrows were gone, and his skin looked sunburned.

If you know anything about gas grills, you know enough not to leave the gas on for several minutes while you go do something else. The gas hangs in the air until it dissipates or ignites out of control. It was a blessing that no other guests were injured.

So now the guest was blaming me and the resort. I asked if he had seen the sign with written instructions. He said yes, but it didn’t say “Warning” at the top. He told me if it had said “Warning,” he would have read it.

Is that how some of us treat the Bible? It doesn’t say “Warning” in big letters, so we don’t take it seriously. We think it’s a book of suggestions. What a tragedy when we ignore the truths inside and our lives suffer. What a tragedy when we ignore the truths inside and create suffering in the lives of those around us. Singed eyebrows are nothing in comparison to the grief we create.

The Bible is much more than a list of “Thou shalt nots.” It contains warnings, certainly, but it is more. It is also a message from a faithful God who loves us and wants the very best for us. The warnings, wisdom, and guidance inside are ignored at our peril.

“Heavenly Father, thank You for Your written Word, which You crafted perfectly over centuries to show us the way to You. Help us to delve into it seriously and, through its words, keep from stumbling.

For His Glory

Cherie Harbridge Williams (www.cherieharbridgewilliams.com)
TRBC Women’s Life

 

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