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“Happy is a man who finds wisdom and who acquires understanding.” Proverbs 3:13 (HCSB)

There’s just some conversations we’d rather avoid. You know the ones that make us feel uncomfortable or uneasy. Like dealing with our insecurities or weaknesses. Being confronted on things we know we need to change. Tough conversations which often cause us to raise up walls rather than allow honest feedback to serve us well.

Ever noticed how easily we change the subject when the discussion is one we don’t want to engage in? In my family the key word is “anyway.” We simply just slide “anyway” into the conversation and redirect the focus to something we’d rather talk about. My mom is the master at this, and we enjoy a quiet laugh every time she lands there. But some subjects just simply can’t be avoided.

Jesus was great at engaging people in life transforming conversations. His words were filled with truth, love and grace. No lecture was required to convey His message. If His audience didn’t get it then Jesus used parables to help them understand. If His audience was critical; He simply spoke truth without igniting a debate or defending Himself. When tough subjects arose, Jesus didn’t insert “anyway” into His response. He took advantage of every opportunity to bring the gospel center stage.

In a 24 hour period, our lips will utter lots of words. Some carelessly thrown around. Others carefully chosen. Conversations will range from simple chatter to major confrontations. We will excuse away “hot topics” we really don’t want to discuss. We will chat, tweet and post whatever we want to say to audiences we really don’t know. So easy to pretend connection than to welcome honest face to face conversation.

Growth is birthed in tackling tough subjects. When we listen rather than quickly respond, we can hear things we would have otherwise missed. When we choose self examination rather than defending self, we open wide the door to transformation. When we stop dismissing, avoiding and disregarding the touch stuff, then we realize the beauty unveiled in gaining insight and wisdom from others.

Anyway will always be an easy stride out of topics we’d like to avoid. Shallow conversations are easy and carefree. But if we really want to engage in deep connections with others, we’ll have to forego the surface level and pursue vulnerability. Best part is we’ll find it’s exactly what we need.

“Father, You created us for deep lasting relationships. Building up, encouraging and strengthening one another. Help us to lower the walls and invite other’s godly perspectives into our world.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life