Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 28, 2021

When Words Fall Short

“I (God) am angry with you (Eliphaz) and your two friends for you have not spoken the truth about Me, as my servant Job has.” Job 42:7b (HCSB)

We’ve probably all found ourselves in pivot moments when we simply just didn’t know what to say. Someone we love experiences a heartbreaking loss. A family member or close friend passes away. A friend loses their job. A couple’s marriage disintegrates right before our eyes. A prodigal wanders further and further away heaping on devastating consequences. An illness or tragedy attacks those in our circle. Could be we are faced with the one whose choices haven’t served them well. All moments when we are searching for the right words and the right response.

Wonder if Job’s friends felt the same way? Devastation, heartbreak and extreme loss characterized Job’s life as Satan targeted him with blows from every angle. Within moments he lost his children, servants, livestock, and if that wasn’t enough he was stricken with boils from head to toe. Extreme losses. A man of perfect integrity (Job 1:8), Job became a moving target for Satan’s attacks. When his friends learned of his heartache, they left their homes with the intent to comfort Job.

And that sweet friends is where our story lands – after long dialogues and great dissertations, Job’s comfort is short lived. His friends can’t explain the tragic events plaguing Job. They can’t wrap their minds around it so instead of comfort, they resort to judgment and accusations. They paint a false narrative of who God is and how He has interacted with Job’s life.

Have to be honest here – we’ve probably all landed there. When the suffering of this world seems larger than life, we attempt to come up with some way to rationalize it. We search for words to say – a way to explain what is so much higher than our own understanding. Like Job’s friends our initial intentions are to comfort, but in the longevity of suffering, we may bend towards judgement and a misrepresentation of God. Don’t want to land in that place.

Before a single word escapes our lips, we would be wise to pray and seek God’s wisdom. Doesn’t mean He is going to give us the answer to someone’s suffering, but we can be confident He will guide us in what to say and when to say it. God will show us key scriptures to remind them of His faithfulness, promises and love for them. He will teach us how to listen deeply and allow others to give voice to their pain without fear of judgement. And sometimes the greatest gift we bring is just being present with them in the midst of their pain.

“Father, You are our ever present help. You are faithful and true. Longsuffering and full of grace. Help us to reflect Your character to those overwhelmed by sorrow and remind them of Your great love.”

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 27, 2021

Sweet Redeemer

“Who redeems your life from the pit, Who crowns you (lavishly) with lovingkindness and tender mercy…” Psalm 103:4 (AMP)

Are you someone who was NOT raised by Christian parents in a Christian home standing on biblical standards and principles? Rules were absent and boundaries nonexistent. The house motto was “live and let live.” Or where you raised totally different? At the opposite end of the spectrum along the short and narrow. Only to take a path contrary to your Christian upbringing. Whichever the case, your choices resulted in what some would label as having a “checkered past.” However, one day all that changed when you met Jesus. The day you received Jesus as your personal Savior your life was instantly changed. The old you passed away and the new you emerged (2 Cor. 5:17).  What was once old was made new by the love and blood of Jesus.

Are there people in your life, because of your past, that have discounted or disqualified you? Even after many years of living for Jesus. Shake it off! Do not fret! Don’t let another day pass caring what others may think. God does our qualifying. God qualifies the disqualified and recognizes the discounted.

In Matthew 1:1-16 Jesus’ lineage lists four women, but they are not Sarah, Rebekah, Leah or Rachel. The women the world would consider up standing citizens. The women on Jesus’ family tree is Tamar the prostitute. However, her lineage produced the tribe of Judah by which the Messiah came. Rahab a Gentile and Jericho’s harlot who was instrumental in helping the Israelites defeat Jericho. Ruth, a Moabite viewed as unclean, but would become the great grandmother of King David. And Bathsheba the adulteress, who gave birth to King Solomon by whose lineage Jesus derived.

God purposefully chose women who the world would discount or disqualify because His grace is greater than all our sins. He is the God of the second, third, fourth and one thousandth chances. Even when by our own actions we wreak havoc into our lives. God lavishes upon us His gracious forgiveness, love and mercy. Supernaturally intervening in our lives no matter what the natural may look like and turns our bondage into blessings.

“Thank You Father, we have nothing to prove because through You our qualifications have been met. You have redeemed us from the mire and muck of the pit.”

For His Glory

Kim Lacey Schock (www.KimLaceySchock.com)
TRBC  Women’s Life

 

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 26, 2021

Vertical Stabilizer

“Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So, also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire!”  (James 3:4-5, ESV)

Years ago, I was in a position that caused me a great deal of stress.  I had prayed for this job for over a year. This one provided me with a decent income and benefits but most importantly flexibility for my boys’ schedule while they were in school.  I started out with a lot of joy but as time went on that diminished.  There were tons of things I wanted to express my opinion about. Lots of things I didn’t like. There were days I would go into the bathroom stall and cry/pray for wisdom.  I wanted to give some people a piece of my mind and walk out.

However, when I held my tongue and resisted the urge to speak – I found myself ruminating less about the problems.  Instead of replaying it in my mind and trying to work it out in my head what I wanted to say,  I held my tongue and my mind became clearer. I was able to hear the Holy Spirit guiding me to what the next step should be.  Most times, the next step He was wanting me to take had nothing to do with the situation that was bothering me.  Instead, He was gently nudging me to trust Him with that issue and take the next step in a matter He wanted me to focus on.

Controlling my tongue allowed opportunities for growth (promotions) on that job.

Self-control is what James is trying to teach us when he compares a tongue to the rudder of a ship. The tongue, like the rudder steers the direction of a person’s life.  The tongue is small but that does not mean it is weak.

A rudder (controlled by the helm) refers to the part of a vertical stabilizer which guides the ship either right or left – allowing it to have directional stability.

Some people have no hand on the helm, or the rudder.  Therefore, saying whatever comes into their mind.  Others allow their tongue to speak from their emotions.  If we’re honest, we all have done it.  But growth (self-control) requires learning to resist that urge. Every thought doesn’t have to be shared.

James is encouraging us to allow the Holy Spirit to work in us to be in control of the helm and guide our tongues to give us the directional stability we need.

Who is at the helm of your ship?

“Father help us to be women of self-control that are led by the Holy Spirit. We realize our mouths can block our blessings.  Help us to pray before we speak.”

For His Glory

 

Laura Holmes (www.ephraimministries.org)
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 25, 2021

A Clean Record

“(Love) does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:5

Even if you’re not digging into God’s Word regularly, you’ve probably attended a wedding (maybe even your own) where 1 Corinthians 13 was read—it’s the familiar love chapter. In these verses, the apostle Paul describes what “agape” love looks like. Agape is one of the many Greek words for love and connotes an unconditional, choice-driven love for others. And it’s a very big ask for us sin-laden humans.

Although the entire chapter delivers a depth and breadth of meaning that could—and has—filled books, I want to home in on one little phrase that packs a huge punch: “it (love) keeps no record of wrongs.”

This inherently carries with it the exhortation to forgive. And the Bible has a lot to say about this topic (Eph 4:23, Mark 11:25, Matt 6:15, Col 3:13—just to name a few). But avoiding recordkeeping, well, that takes it to another level: it demands that we forgive and forget. You may be thinking, “Yeah, that’s not for me…how can I ever win an argument if the hatchet I buried long ago doesn’t have the handle easily accessible, so I can grab it and swing as needed?”

Sister, if you are a Christ-follower, saved by faith through the amazing grace of Jesus, your record is clean and clear. When you recognized that your sin separated you from God, and you believed that Jesus paid the price of restoration, all your sins were forgiven (past, present, and future). More than that, they are forgotten (Jer 31:34, Hebrews 8:12)—God does not bring them up again. (Satan will, but that’s another story altogether.) When God opens His record book to your name, the countless items that should be there are gone, erased by the blood of Jesus. Your record, and mine, has been expunged.

As Christians, we are called to walk through this world taking intentional steps to be more like Jesus. This includes loving others with agape love. It means forgiving your husband and not tucking the incident away for an opportune time to pull it out. It’s recognizing the Lord’s new mercies toward us every morning (Lam 3:22-23) and extending that to our children, friends, and coworkers. It means burying the entire hatchet—no digging up allowed.

Our record is clean, thanks to Jesus. And we’ve been given the Holy Spirit to help us forgive—and forget—in the same way. I’m not saying it’s easy…but how about it? Let’s grab our own proverbial pencil and start erasing those lists we’ve been keeping.

“Lord, thank You for the forgiveness (and “forgetness”) that You extend to me. Help me love more like you every day.”

For His Glory

 

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 24, 2021

What’s Love Got To Do With It

“If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing well.” James 2:8 (ESV)

What the world needs know Is love, sweet love it’s the only thing there’s just too little of…..I remember hearing this song as a little girl.  It sounded ever so sweet.  And love at that tender age didn’t appear lacking.  Life was simple then…..when love evolved around our parents and family.

Fast forward to teen years and young adulthood, we learned quickly the shortage of love was ever increasing.  Bullying, peer pressure, fake friendships and lost “puppy” loves left us empty and wondering what’s love got to do with it?

Want to know the secret to “real” love?  It’s found in giving.  Yes, you got it – while we are always desiring the receiving end, real love sacrificially and generously gives.  Without holding back or looking out for what’s in it for me.

“Love your neighbor as yourself,” echoes from the heart of One who demonstrates His love so beautifully.  Jesus came to serve…to give…..the perfect love which endured humiliation, suffering and death despite our tendencies to be self absorbed, and indulgent. Daily He surrounds us with His unconditional love setting the example of what love has to do with it.

When we choose to love others as self, we become their best cheerleader.  We don’ covet their achievements or seek to compare self with them.  We love selflessly seeking their best rather than choosing the preferred for self.  We guard our words.  We become intentional listeners and gracious investors in the lives of others.

So you see love has everything to do with how we imitate Jesus to our world.  A world that’s desperately searching for the “real” thing.  A world accustomed to broken flawed relationships.  A world afraid to trust or hope in the impossible. A world consumed with self and convinced everyone else is too. A world Jesus gave His life for despite our inability to love perfectly in return.

So sweet friend if you’re wondering what’s love got to do with it…then glance toward a rugged cross.  Hear the resounding pounds of nails piercing His hands.  Envision the crown of thorns crushing His head.  Glimpse the drops of blood trickling down.  Listen closely for His final words – It is finished – love defined in a way foreign to our human comprehension.

When we get even a small understanding of Jesus’ love, we realize loving our neighbor isn’t really hard. It’s simply recognizing that love has everything to do with the way we reflect Jesus to our world.

“Father, it is ever so easy to get caught up in self and desire what works best for us without regard to others.  Help us to remember Your selfless, unconditional love and choose intentionally to love our world  the way You do.”

 

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 20, 2021

Someone’s Gonna Pay

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gracious gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

Around the world, generally speaking, crime is punished and justice is served. There’s a deeper philosophical question in there as to what constitutes a “crime” and the associated penalties paid for those respective crimes—let alone the warped evolution of the concept of “justice.” But we’re going to talk at higher levels—much higher, as you’ll see.

Although no earthly justice system is perfect, when a societal law is broken, payment must be made. If you’re caught speeding, you pay the fine. If you’re convicted of theft or assault, you’ll likely spend time in jail. Often, the perpetrator must make monetary restitution to the victim, compensating for what has been taken (property, health, even life).

But no matter the standard of “right” we may be working from, most of us can agree that if that standard is violated, some action or payment must be made for true justice to be served. And by the literal definition of justice, this is certainly true.

Did you know, sister, that the True and Living God is, by definition, a just God (Isaiah 61:8, Ecclesiastes 3:17; Hebrews 10:30)? He is perfectly Holy (Isaiah 6:3; Revelation 15:4), and He cannot tolerate the slightest unrighteousness (sin) in His presence—only perfection.

Are you perfect? I’m certainly not! None of us are (Romans 3:23). So, what’s God’s penalty for sin—any and every sin, not just the “really bad ones”? Death. Not the death of our bodies at the end of our earthly lifetime, but rather spiritual death: eternal suffering in hell (Romans 6:3; Revelation 21:8). Payment for sin is required, and it will be paid.

But, friend, Someone has already paid that penalty on your behalf! Jesus (fully God) came to earth (fully man) to live the perfect life we could never live. And then, He died the death we deserve, taking the full penalty for every sinner for all time and transferring His perfect righteousness to our account. In fact, His last word on Calvary’s cross was “Tetelestai”—it is finished, the debt has been satisfied (John 19:30). A Great Exchange was made in that moment, His robe of righteousness for our filthy rags.

Do we automatically become sinless upon our acceptance of this free and gracious gift? Nope. But we are made free from the bondage of sin, and we’re given the Holy Spirit to help us walk through this world in closer and closer alignment with God’s Word and His will. And when we do leave this world through physical death and are brought before the Holiest of Holy judges, we can stand in His presence unafraid and unstained—in unbridled joy!

Any wrongdoing—from a lustful thought to a heinous murder—requires penalty. None of us has a proverbial “Get out of hell free” card based on our own actions (or goodness). It is simply not possible in our fallen humanity. But we’ve been given that great gift through Jesus Christ. And if we accept what He did on our behalf, our souls are forever stamped “paid in full.”

“Father, if there is just one reading this today who has not yet accepted the free gift of salvation through faith in Jesus Christ, I pray this moment will change their eternal destination.”

 

For His Glory

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 19, 2021

Working Your Core

“Therefore, take up the whole armor, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.” (Ephesians 6:13, ESV)

I love horseback riding.  It ranks high on the list of my “go to” activities for stress relief. When I’m on the trail riding my mind has to stay focused.  Not on the problems going on in my life, but on the horse and the trail in front of me.  There’s a wonderful sense of freedom and relaxation enjoying the beauty of the great outdoors.

The most important fundamental and a key foundation riding skill is having a strong core connection with your horse. Connecting to your core means balance for both you and your horse.

Having a connected core also allows you to have better emotional control (over yourself and your horse).  Without this essential connection, everything else you do on your horse will be off. When your core is properly engaged, you stay in sync with your horse’s center of balance. It creates a sensation of stability and harmony in motion between you and your horse.

It’s important to stay calm and allow your body to move with the rhythm of the horse.  Working your core gives you the ability to feel the way he is walking, making it easier to let him rock you from side to side without resisting.  You might bounce or get thrown off if you’re too tense.

When Paul wrote the verse above to the church in Ephesus, he was stressing the importance of working your spiritual core.

“Having done all” implies:

  • Daily personal prayer (relationship)
  • Regularly reading /studying (meditating/taking thoughts captive) on the Word
  • Staying connected to others in the Body of Christ (accountability)

When I am engaged in these things, I’m not able to focus on the problems of life. These fundamentals help me focus on Jesus instead (another great stress reliever). There’s freedom in Him.

Not having our core firmly connected to God leaves us more vulnerable to our emotions. Life can be bumpy (like a trail) and if our core is not connected to God then we can be thrown.

When life throws us, our emotions can keep us from being in sync with God.

Have you ever uttered these words?

“I don’t feel like reading my Bible.”  “I don’t feel like going to bible study/church.”  “I don’t feel like . . . “

If our balance is off, then we’re not able to put on the whole armor and we have no stamina to stand when the trail of life makes us sway. (Ephesian 6:14-17)

The Bible stabilizes us.  His truth allows us to move in any direction life pulls us and gives us proper balance.

“Father help us to understand the importance of working our spiritual core. It enables us to put on the whole armor so that we can stand against the schemes of the devil.”

 

For His Glory

Laura Holmes (www.ephraimministries.org)
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 18, 2021

Extreme Makeover

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.”  2 Corinthians 5:17

Before the show “Extreme Makeover: Home Edition” was a thing, there was an original version not many may remember called “Extreme Makeover.” Basically, someone would leave their loved ones and start a journey of transformation with a team of health, medical, and beauty experts. And it was very extreme—from cosmetic dentistry and laser eye surgery to minimal food and maximum exercise, no aspect of their physical self was left unchanged. (We watched it weekly…it was kind of a train wreck, but it was hard to look away.) Sadly, if you read any of those “where are they now” sites, you’ll see that these participants’ lives were not miraculously improved just because their outside was changed. Often relationships worsened, physical problems ensued, the weight came back, etc.

But, friend, did you know that God has planned for each of us our very own extreme makeover? Unlike the TV show, though, the transformation we undergo is from the inside out—and we’re forever changed for the better. No professionals needed…just God’s perfect Word. So, what are some steps to realize a whole new you?

  • Turn away from what was—and start moving in a new direction.

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! (Isaiah 43:18-19); Therefore, repent and return, so that your sins may be wiped away, in order that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord. (Acts 3:19)

  • Put on a fresh wardrobe—clothe yourself with righteousness.

I will rejoice greatly in the Lord, My soul will be joyful in my God; For He has clothed me with garments of salvation, He has wrapped me with a robe of righteousness, As a groom puts on a turban, And as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. (Isaiah 61:10)

  • Get your eyes fixed—on the Lord.

For my eyes are toward You, God, the Lord; In You I take refuge; do not leave me defenseless.

  • Get a facelift—change your countenance with the joy of salvation.

These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full. (John 15:11); Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit. (Psalm 51:12)

  • Apply a new perfume—the sweet aroma of Christ.

But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and through us reveals the fragrance of the knowledge of Him in every place. For we are a fragrance of Christ to God… (2 Corinthians 2:15-16)

 

Unlike after a physical makeover, it’s understandable to want to keep a mirror handy to admire the “new you.” But when we’re transformed by faith in Jesus and made new in Him, the mirror we use changes as well. Instead of gazing at self, “we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord. (2 Corinthians 3:18). Transformation is a prayer away—why not choose to be renewed today?

 

“Father, thank you that when we surrender to You, we don’t stay the same!”

 

For His Glory

Julianne Winkler Smith
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 17, 2021

Holding Onto Grace

“For from his fullness we have all received, grace upon grace.” John 1:16 (ESV)

Wow – first week back to the office after 13 months of working from home.  And what a week it was!  I still have things in boxes; I guess eventually they will get unpacked and re-organized.  My fave word this week was “grace.”  When I wandered out of my office and forgot my mask  – grace.  When I misplaced my badge to enter the building – grace.  When I got to work late one morning – grace.  When I got the time mixed up for a leader’s meeting  – grace.  I think you get the picture.

Change even if welcomed takes some time to adjust or in my case re-adjust.  As I drove out of my driveway Monday morning – rain pouring down and lots of boxes, scanner, laptop, gym bag in hand – I prayed, “Lord I’m grabbing a hold of grace this week.”  Amazing how even uttering those words, softened my stressful first day.  Being kind to self served me well, reduced my stress and lightened my attitude.

But today’s the beginning of another week – grace is still there for me – but this week, I will embrace the change a little better and easier.  I will adapt to what I need to do different and embrace some grace for those moments I forget. I won’t use grace as an excuse, yet I will cherish it rather than stress over my less than perfect moments.

Do you need some grace in your week?  Maybe it’s a deadline hanging over your head.  Perhaps it’s struggling through a tough interaction with family, friends or co-workers.  Could it be a transition you didn’t expect? Maybe it’s shame and guilt from a decision that didn’t serve you well.  Could it be a reoccurrence of the one thing you pledged you’d never do again?

In those hard places, we are often our own worst enemy.  Overshadowed by the lies of Satan, we dwell on the ugliness within rather than the beauty and power of God’s grace. Rather than leaning into Him, we attempt to carry it all ourselves.  And the evidence of our mess is known to all.  The spewing out of our ungraced moments isn’t pretty.

Releasing our tendency for perfection or avoidance in the face of change welcomes grace.  Allowing ourselves some room to adjust and respond well.  Recognizing in this season, we simply can’t do it all.  Accepting our failures as divine opportunities to seek God’s forgiveness and walk away renewed. Grace – the freedom to accept where we are, whose we are and then move forward in sync with God.

“Father, You are our amazing grace – forever covering all of us right in the midst of our mess. So blessed and grateful for Your love.

For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | May 14, 2021

God Intends It For Good

“You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.”  Genesis 50:20

The story of Joseph is one riddled with trials and victories.  Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers, separated from his family for many years, and thrown in jail for a crime he didn’t commit.  But he also interpreted dreams and became Pharaoh’s right-hand man, and eventually saved people from famine because God had him store up food from a previous time of abundance.

I imagine that Joseph never woke up and thought, “Man, I sure hope I get sold into slavery one day, and also spend some time in jail!”  Joseph probably didn’t imagine that one day he would be the mastermind behind feeding the people of Egypt during a severe famine, either.  While the Bible doesn’t say what Joseph thought his life would be like, it’s safe to say that his life did not turn out like he thought.

Have you ever had a dream or a prayer that wasn’t answered as you had hoped?  Has your life turned out a little different than you thought?  Me, too.  For many years, I had a dream for something good, something that would bless me and those around me for years to come.  But for some reason, God said no to my dream.  Year after year, His answer was still no.

I’m extremely thankful for all the blessings in my life, and I know that God has worked all things in my life for His good.  However, I am sometimes tempted to think about my unanswered prayer and the “why” behind it- why was my prayer not answered when others seem to get the same prayer answered?  Did God not see me and care about me?

Maybe you’ve fallen into this trap too, comparing yourself to others or believing that God isn’t good to you.  Maybe your life hasn’t turned out exactly how you thought it would.   Maybe you are going through a hard season with a job, a relationship, or an illness.  In times of hardship, it’s so easy to focus on our problems and take our eyes off the One who can help us weather our storms.  But when we do that, we miss out on seeing how God is working all things for our good, and we run the risk of our hearts turning hard.

I find it inspiring how Joseph didn’t let the trials of his life fill his heart with bitterness and rage. Imagine if Joseph had decided to ignore his God-given ability to interpret dreams because he was too busy focusing on how terrible he’d been treated by his brothers.  Or, what if he had decided that he was just going to let the abundant crops get eaten by the birds instead of storing them up for the famine because he wanted to do something different with his life?

Instead, Joseph used the unimaginable events in his life to trust God and bless those around him.  When he finally saw his brothers again, Joseph said something that seems impossible: “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.” And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.  Genesis 50:20-21

Isn’t that amazing?  After all that Joseph had been through, he knew that God was in control, working in his life for good.  He didn’t respond to his family with bitterness, but with kindness and love.  Only God could have made that possible!

“Lord, help us choose to focus on You and Your goodness, instead of letting our hearts turn hard from of the trials in this life.”

 

For His Glory

Aubrey Carrales
TRBC Women’s Life

 

 

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