Posted by: trbccoffeebreak | February 20, 2023

Yielding Our Words

“She opens her mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26 (ESV)

Ever let words slip carelessly and then desired to grab them back?  Oh yes, there are too many occasions for me to even count on this one.  Desperately tried to seek cover when my frustrations with a repairman gave voice to unkind words.  I genuinely thought those words were heard only by a group of co-workers.  Not exactly how it all unfolded.  The repairman was coming around the corner when he heard those remarks aimed at him. With no time or place to hide, I had to face the reality of my careless chatter.

We’ve probably all landed there – the place where words flow without even giving thought to where they will land.  Takes great restraint to hold back, bite our tongue and silence our voice. Takes discernment to know when to speak and when to remain quiet.  Takes discipline to consistently yield to the Holy Spirit’s guidance when we’d much rather say whatever we like.

God’s word has a lot to say about our tiny little tongue which can birth destruction and/or praise all in the same breath. Psalm 139:4 reminds us that even before a word is formed on our tongue, the Lord knows what we will say.  Sweet friend that’s convicting.  To realize our thoughts which usher out of our lips are fully known by our loving God should be enough to squelch any desire to spew effortlessly.

The good, bad and ugly can all proceed from our lips.  The tongue is small yet boasts of great things (James 3:5).  Described by James as a fire and a world of unrighteousness, our words can birth a path of destruction.  No human being can tame the tongue characterized as a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

Wow, I think we all get the picture.  We desperately need the help of the Holy Spirit to control our thoughts which ultimately end up flowing from our lips.  No better example than the Proverbs 31 woman who opens her mouth with wisdom, the obvious overflow of one who cherishes the word of God.  One who strategically weighs the impact of her words.   One who prayerfully speaks and by the example of her words teaches others deep lessons about kindness. Don’t know about you, but I’m feeling sweet conviction which leads to repentance.

Wonder what would happen in our world if we simply paused before a single word escaped our lips.  Wonder what others would learn from the kindness we’d exemplify if we resisted the urge to give voice to all things. Could all our conversations bring glory and praise to God rather than leaving a path of destruction?

What we can’t do ourselves, God can do. He is ready to help us reign in our tongue.  If we yield to His Spirit’s leading, we can walk in victory.  “My tongue will sing of your word, for all your commandments are right,” rings from the psalmist’s lips (Psalm 119:172).  Encouraging words to savor as we battle against our tendency to chatter carelessly. Words worthy of meditation and savoring – heeding God’s words rather than our own. Now that’s something to talk about.

“Father, my lips are swift to speak and slow to pause. Help me to yield my speech to the leading of Your Spirit and chatter kindness wherever I go.”


For His Glory

Janet Martin
TRBC Women’s Life

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